I’ve learned to love Christmas❤️and the Winter Holidays.
But.. I Use to really hate it…especially during the years I was questioning all things religious and spiritual.
𝘠𝘦𝘴 𝘺𝘦𝘴 𝘺𝘦𝘴 you know I’m all about optimism and abundance.
I’m also about illuminating the darkness that we often tend to avoid because it’s painful and makes us uncomfortable.
Though…this is how and why we grow.
The more we can become aware of darkness, acknowledge the triggers and trauma of the holidays, the deeper we heal and integrate.
𝐄𝐱𝐜𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐨𝐝, 𝐚𝐥𝐜𝐨𝐡𝐨𝐥, 𝐬𝐮𝐠𝐚𝐫, 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞, 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮, 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐨𝐟 𝐩𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐬, 𝐠𝐢𝐟𝐭𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐚𝐬𝐤 𝐟𝐨𝐫, 𝐞𝐱𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬, 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐮𝐦𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐦…
Anything and everything can bring about so much 𝘫𝘰𝘺 and at the same time so much 𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨.
SO here’s my top “𝐇𝐨𝐥𝐢𝐝𝐚𝐲 𝐇𝐚𝐜𝐤𝐬” I’ve discovered to keep me grounded during the holidays and something I hope lands and resonates with you:
𝟏. 𝐅𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐠𝐠𝐞𝐫. When you notice that feeling emerge, where do you notice it in your body? Breath into that and acknowledge the emotion rather than suppress it.
𝟐. 𝐑𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐩𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐞. You may not know the full story of those around you…just like they might not know your past experiences either - give each other 𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘦.
𝟑. 𝐏𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐞 𝐜𝐮𝐫𝐢𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐲. Part of reducing the charge of triggers is to stay in a place of curiosity and discovery. This doesn’t mean you have to agree.
𝟒. 𝐄𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐭𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐚𝐫𝐲. The holidays will pass. Consider how much energy you want to feed into drama or not.
𝟓. 𝐂𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞 𝐧𝐞𝐰 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬. Structure ways to fill your cup during this time (𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐓 - they don’t have to involve religion or food if it’s triggering) - check my IG stories for my new Christmas tradition.
𝟔. 𝐒𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐬. Let your friends and family know how they can support you. Practicing clear communication is 𝘬𝘦𝘺 in creating both boundaries AND a loving atmosphere.
Are you digging these hacks? Make sure to follow me on Instagram for MORE @dr.melkrug AND @projectlioness